Owning our story can be hard but not nearly as difficult as spending our lives running from it. Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and joy—the experiences that make us the most vulnerable. Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light. ~Brené Brown
Thank you Mary!! I started listening to Brene Brown’s “The Power of Vulnerability” this week and all I can say is WOW! She is funny, relatable and has so much insight on how the human mind works and operates. One of the things that she said that I can totally relate to is something Prof M had discussed and that is the difference in Men and Women when it came to “tackling life”. Women not only want to do it all and do it perfect but they want to look hot while they are doing it! That is so true and so spot on with how I operate that I was like wow this is no boring self help book this is totally relatable. There is something so powerful about hearing a professional admit the same struggles that we are going through and admitting them through powerful story telling that allows me to learn so much more. I think I am like most people that when I listen to someone preach from an unattainable pedestal I completely dismiss them because I can’t relate to them. I believe I can never be that perfect and I start traveling down that “shame” road of “I will never be able to do that” or “I will never be able to achieve that level” and I end up not learning what that person is trying to teach.
Guilt, Shame and Vulnerability are things that we do not like to voice because of course it shows weakness and no one wants to be viewed as weak or likewise it is uncomfortable to talk about. Dr. Brown brings so much insight into how we operate in our daily professional and personal interactions that can be traced back to these three core feelings: Guilt, shame and vulnerability. She believes that if we all had a better understanding of these feelings we could tailor our lives for whole hearted living.
First and foremost, we need to be the adults we want our children to be. We should watch our own gossiping and anger. We should model the kindness we want to see.
~ Brené Brown
She has inspired me to take a deeper look into myself and my behaviors so I can start living a better life. As she pointed out in her sessions we are living our lives in fear of “the other shoe to drop” instead of reveling in the enjoyment of the joyous moments in our lives.
The dark does not destroy the light; it defines it. It’s our fear of the dark that casts our joy into the shadows. ~ Brené Brown
I think my the most revealing thing that she brought up that struck home was learning to say no. I am a people pleaser by nature and saying no is often hard. So she broke it down into two things:
- Do I want to feel uncomfortable for 30 seconds with the person that I am saying no to or
- Do I want to resent this person that has asked me to do a favor for because I don’t have enough time to do it, when all they wanted was help.
Wow what insight, I know this is simple but I feel like I am always taking on more to avoid that uncomfortable 30 seconds and I definitely end up resenting the person for asking and in reality that person should not be punished because I didn’t have the power to say no. That was definitely a big take away for me. I can’t wait to finish reading this book and transforming my thoughts and reactions into a better way of life and then using that to teach others and especially our next generations that they are not alone in life’s struggles and lets “dare greatly” together. (next book I can’t wait to read)
I don’t have to chase extraordinary moments to find happiness–it’s right in front of me if I’m paying attention and practicing gratitude. ~ Brené Brown